Are you addicted to giving away your power?

What would you do if you had all the power you could possibly wish for?

We all have things we want more (or less) of in life, but most of us don’t realise that we have as much power today as anyone who ever lived.

Just think for a moment about any of the great and powerful people who have ever walked the Earth: Buddha, Jesus, Mohammad, Gandhi, Einstein, Confucius and so on…

It can be helpful to remember that none of them was born any more powerful than you!

So why is it that if we are all born equally powerful, that some of us appear to possess more power than others?

Is it because we forget that we are born powerful and simply don’t express it?

Or perhaps it’s because we divert, misdirect or diffuse our power into other places…

Did you know?

Our relationships are one of the main ways we try to access more (or less) of our own power!

This is understandable as we literally couldn’t survive without them, so most of us have been trained to believe that our relationships need to sustain us so we can feel good.

For example, if someone is rude or unkind to us, we might feel angry or upset – and conversely if someone is kind or generous, we may feel happy or blessed.

But this means we are relying on the way others treat us to determine how we feel, and that our personal power will always depend on external forces.

And the truth is that no-one else is ever in charge of your power, which means that no-one can else can ever give it to you – or take it away.

It’s so easy to attribute the way we feel to outside influences.

So easy in fact, that most of us have become addicted to blaming other people or situations for feeling the way that we do.

But you have probably realised by now, that no matter how hard you try…changing someone else, or their behaviour, is NOT the answer.

So, what to do?

Chances are if you are experiencing any sort of loss of power, then even though someone else may be behaving badly, on some level you too are playing your part.

And THAT is what is draining your power!

That is because we tend to attract people and situations that mirror our own stories, so your true power actually lies in understanding the role YOU are playing.

This is so you can decide how you might like to change your perspective and mirror (or attract) something different.

Take the example of a critical friend or partner…

It’s easy to feel hurt or upset when you feel criticised, but what if instead of feeling judged or small, we acknowledged that this was simply a reflection of our own self-judgement in some way.

And that by releasing them from controlling how we feel…we could start to focus on new ways to bring back our sense of self-worth and with it, our personal power.

Most of us have probably encountered a major upset or negative experience in-life that had a significant impact on us.

And while we may not wish to repeat the experience, we might also acknowledge that it was this same experience that was the primary catalyst for ‘something better’.

It can be empowering to know that no matter what you’re experiencing…it is ALWAYS possible reclaim your power, simply by shifting your perspective and taking complete ownership of your role in the scenario.

As only then will you be in a position to start focusing on what YOU would like more…or less of…in your own life.

So, really…it’s all up to you!

Nicola x

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